I've read an article in the newspaper today about how parents like to jump the gun and say "no" on most requests from their teenagers. Quoting the article,
The word "No" tends to escape well-meaning parent's lips too quickly.
I'm not saying whether it's right or wrong. It's the article that's saying that it's somewhat wrong.
"Particularly for teenagers, conversation ceases the moment you blurt out a quick 'No'. By asking permission, they are letting [their parents] into their life and space......"
I'm writing this post because most of us teenagers go through this part of our life. To be honest, that's one of the reasons why I'm a bit socially awkward like I am, but that's a story for another blog post.
By getting the answer "No" every single time they request something, we will hear one of the favourite phrases of teenagers (cue article quote):
[Head of] the youth division in Fei Yue Community Services says: "You hear teenagers telling their friends: 'No need to ask, parents sure say no.', then they go on to do what they like."
This is actually very dangerous as teenagers might go do drugs or something crazy like that.
For more information on how parents should cope with this situation other than just saying "no", check out the article on Star2, Friday 27 June 2014, page 5 (Wow, I'm advertising a newspaper now...)
But let's face it, the power of the answer "No" is huge. Whether if it's from parents, in a "relationship", in a work interview, or even a simple "Can I borrow some money?", if we can overcome it, we can definitely do anything. Not sure if I've done it yet, but hey, that's just my (and the article's) opinion.
Thanks for reading.